Your problem? You treat a mistake like a final fail mark, because that’s what school taught you. We gotta break that link.
I had a friend, Shiva, at chess school. Super creative, super fearless. I’m Rathish.
One tournament, Shiva played this crazy, risky move in an opening, giving away a pawn for an idea. He lost.
We went to his coach, a guy I’ll call “The Critic” (so he doesn’t see this reel, obviously). The Critic LOST IT. Yelling, screaming: “Why didn’t you play the safe move I showed you?! You’re throwing points!” Zero analysis. Just anger.
I asked Shiva why he did it. He looked me dead in the eye and said: “Rathish, even if it’s a mistake, I’ll learn something from it. Why be afraid to try?”
The next day, I tried the same risky move. I lost, too.
We went to my coach let’s call him “The Wise Man.” He looked at the board, smiled, and asked, “Did you get compensation?”
“No, Coach,” I admitted.
He took a pause, and then dropped the ultimate mic-drop line: Well, Rathish, it’s good that you’re not afraid of making mistakes. Very good!
He analyzed the game, showed me where the real error was, and said: Do whatever you think is best. Don’t worry about the results.
Guess what? After being constantly yelled at by The Critic, my fearless friend Shiva quit chess. He lost his passion.
But I kept playing. I kept trying new, risky things.
Now, look at the two friends who tried a new opening (1.e4):
Friend B (the one who embraced the mistake) used them as fuel. He fixed his errors and gained 150 points in a few months.
If you are not making mistakes, you are not growing. Your mistake is just proof that you are TRYING.
Stop running from failure. Start stepping on it.